What a load a crap! Why? Well stick with me here while I demonstrate. I'd love to get together BUT I ate oatmeal this morning. Does that make sense to you? Of course not! And I submit that we believe the word BUT somehow gives us a way out or a justification to NOT do. It's a cop out.
Consider that the statements before and after the word BUT are seperate and distinct. i.e. I'd love to get together; relatives are in town; I had oatmeal for breakfast. They have absolutely no relationship with each other, and no impact on each other. We try to associate those statements together in a feeble attempt to justify why something we committed to or promised to do isn't going to happen.
We set ourselves up for failure, and think nothing of it. Consider that the word BUT is a draining, self defeatist attitude that has no place in our lexicon. That's just semantics you might say. It's just a word, it doesn't mean anything. Oh really? Try it on and see how you feel when you use the word BUT. See how ridiculous it sounds when you use the word BUT.
So, now what? Let's say you're still reading this article, and you want some insight on how to stop using BUT. Well it's quite simple, and requires practice and diligence to re-train your brain.
Replace BUT with AND
Yup, that's it! i.e. I'd love to get together with you AND my parents are in town. Sounds more like a how do we get this to work approach vs. I can't do it.
Here are a few of mine lately:
- I want my team to hit their quarterly quota BUT we have 2 open head count
- I want to work out regularly BUT with my new born I have no time
- I want to write in my blog every 2 days BUT I'm too tired at the end of the night
How about this:
- I want my team to hit their quarterly quota AND we have 2 open head count
- I want to work out regularly AND I have a new born
- I want to write in my blog every 2 days AND I need to find time
My suspicion is that you will feel much differently and new possibilities will emerge.
So get off your BUTT and stop using BUT as an excuse!